This is one of the most common objections to Christians that I hear. People do not understand why Christians cannot understand that everyone has their own beliefs, and why we cannot simply “live and let live”. They see Christians as prideful and arrogant, because they believe their beliefs are better than others. So let’s make an attempt to take a rational look at why Christians proselytize. What is proselytizing?
According to Merriam-Webster dictionary, to proselytize means “to recruit or convert especially to a new faith, institution, or cause”. In other words, to proselytize is simply attempting to convince someone outside of your group to join you. Do Christians proselytize? Christians do attempt to convince others to join Christianity, but Christians are by no means the only ones who proselytize. Actually the majority of religions are built off of proselytizing, but not only that, politicians and their supporters proselytize in order to spread their ideas and increase their votes. Charity groups proselytize in order to increase their funding. Even schools proselytize to get more students. Even with all these different groups proselytizing, it is rare to hear complaints about any of them except Christians (maybe politicians but that is usually by the people proselytizing the opposite side). So what makes Christian proselytizing so different?
Why are Christians so pushy?
First a short proclaimer before I answer this question: Though I completely understand it is not always the case, I will be answering this question with the assumption that the Christians we are talking about are following the Bible’s motivation. So what motivates Christians to be pushy in proselytizing? The answer is simple: love. Non-Christians accuse Christians of not understanding their beliefs yet the opposite is clearly also true. If a non-Christian truly understood the belief of a Christian, they would then appreciate the fact that the Christian was proselytizing.
Think about it this way. If you knew how to cure cancer then you would attempt to tell as many people with cancer as possible about your cure, right? Now imagine there was one person that not only didn’t believe in your cure, but didn’t even believe they had cancer. They had all the tests done and they showed all the signs but simply didn’t believe it. What would you do? You would do everything you could to convince that person that they did have cancer and that they needed your cure. You wouldn’t consider it intolerant of their belief that they are healthy, you would consider it an attempt to save their life.
Now from the side of the Christian; a Christian believes that all are infected with a disease called sin (Rom 3:23) which leads to death (Rom 6:23) and that the only way to be cured is through accepting Jesus as Lord (Rom 10:9-10). If we truly believe this and did not tell you, than we would be like the person with a cure to cancer who hides it away and allows all the cancer patients to die. Whether you agree or not is your choice, but even if you disagree with what a Christian believes, you must agree that it would be insensitive, even criminal, for me to believe that you are headed towards death and not do anything about it.
Okay, but why are Christians always so judgmental, assuming I’m a bad person?
The Bible shows us all to be bad people without Christ’s sacrifice. Whether it’s you or me, no one person is better than another. That is the amazing thing about the Gospel, is that for once there is no discrimination. People who have claimed to follow it have created discrimination, but that just further proves the point that humanity as a whole is flawed. Christians are not saying that you specifically are a bad person, but that everyone of us has sinned and done something wrong, and therefore needs a Saviour. Again, as stated above, you are free to disagree with this point, but it doesn’t change how Christians believe.
Can't Christians understand that everyone has their own beliefs and that the Christian belief is no better than others?
Of course a Christian understands that others have their own beliefs but just as everyone else, a Christian believes that their own beliefs are correct, and just like everyone else they believe that their own beliefs are important, and a part of their beliefs is the importance of sharing them with others (Matt 28:19-20; Mark 16:16; Acts 1:8).
So what’s the point of this article?
Non-Christians often accuse Christians of being intolerant of others beliefs, and say that they should not proselytize. The point of this article is simply to show that to tell a Christian not to proselytize is being intolerant, possibly even ignorant, of their beliefs. To be clear, I do not, by any means, stand behind every action made in the name of Christianity. I also do not defend many of the methods used by Christians to proselytize. I also believe strongly that Christians need to be more open to hearing what others believe and more understanding when people do not want to hear from them. But as mentioned above, it would be insensitive and even criminal for us Christians to completely abandon our attempt to help save you from the death that we believe you are headed to. You are free to disagree, but as you ask us to be tolerant of your belief, please be tolerant of ours.